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True or false? Never go to bed angry

Turns out the old adage about making up before you hit the sheets is more than just a feel-good philosophy. It has scientific merit, too. A University of Massachusetts study has discovered that as you sleep, your body stores feelings of distress, anger and resentment, making it harder for you to forget — and forgive.
By Kate Gertner
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Turns out the old adage about making up before you hit the sheets is more than just a feel-good philosophy. It has scientific merit, too. A University of Massachusetts study has discovered that as you sleep, your body stores feelings of distress, anger and resentment, making it harder for you to forget — and forgive.

Try it tonight: Cool off with this tip from Chatelaine health expert and life coach Dr. Susan Biali. "Sit facing each other, and say the following in turn: 'Even though I'm mad at you and think that you're wrong, I want you to know that the thing I love most about you is....' It doesn't minimize the conflict, but it does shift the focus, and I find it really softens things."

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